Just another viewpoint on one of the more difficult Australian debates: Gay Marriage.

So in response to this article, here's my two cents worth.

 For the record, I am not gay and I have absolutely no authority on the matter whatsoever other than being a savvy follower of any political disagreement.


This is a really interesting perspective and I agree that it is not psychologically ideal for a child to be in that situation where they are going to have an emotionally complicated upbringing. I can't help but wonder though, whether many of these emotional complications could be avoided if society didn't attach a stigma to homosexual relationships that defines them as less valid than heterosexual couples. Gay marriage seems to be something of a moral panic in the same way that there was a moral panic when woman wanted to work, rather than sit at home and raise a family, or when Indigenous people wanted to be recognised in the constitution as people rather than native fauna. These are all societal issues that take time for people to comprehend and come to terms with.

Putting this argument aside and coming back to children in same sex parent families who may suffer some psychological issues as a result of homosexual parenting, and using this logic of a "moral hazard", what about the kids being raised by one parent because the parents are divorced? Or the kids being violently or sexually abused, the kids who are being taken away from their families by docs and put in foster families or adoptive families of a different race? Should we ban overseas adoption too?

 I know that people get sick of the "A loving family with homosexual parents is better than a violent family with heterosexual parents" argument, but I do think there is some validity in this. I would love to see comparative statistics  of kids who grow up in violent households compared with kids growing up with homosexual parents. There isn't much yet, at least not in Australia because this is a relatively new situation. My hypothesis is that kids growing up in loving families of any kind are generally going to be far better off than those who are not. Particularly since in a some situations, that's where the kids of gay couples could have been.

Maybe I will be wrong.

And why is surrogacy for gay couples, than hetero couples that cannot conceive? Do they treat their donor any differently? Can they love their child unequivocally? I know a girl who came from a surrogate, and let me tell you, the love that her parents have for her is certainly unconditional. She is their entire world.

So should this issue of raising children that the LGBT are demanding the right to have, be an impediment to gay marriage? I don't think so. I know that blanket equality is an idealistic concept that probably won't work in many situations, I just am not convinced that this is one of them.